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Monday, 7 December 2015

Question of the Month: December

Each month, a whole bunch of us answer a question. It's a game called Question of the Month. It's pretty simple, you should join in.

I realised this morning that a great question for this month would have been "What do you want for Christmas?" But I've never been good at being topical. So instead, the question is this:

"Which one social convention would you get rid of?"

You know, those things that society tells you you have to do that you just don't think you should? If you had the power to change one of those things, what would it be?

Ever since I hit puberty, I've hated wearing suits, business-shirts and ties. As in properly hated it. Whenever I'm in a button-up shirt, I feel suffocated, defeated, depressed, like I'm trying to be someone I'm not. I feel like I'm trying to fit in with a group of people whose respect for you is affected by the price of the clothes you're wearing. 

Everyone's always disappointed when I try to turn up to a wedding or a 21st in my normal clothes and I've never understood that. If I'm there to celebrate a milestone with a friend, what does it matter what I wear?

In job interviews, you get an instant fail if you turn up in anything other than a button-up shirt. That's so sad! What I wear has no bearing on how well I'll do at a job. Why should I wear something that makes me uncomfortable and self-conscious?

The standard response I get to that question is something along the lines of "It shows you care about your presentation," "Don't you want to take pride in your appearance?" or "You have to make an effort for the people you care about." Those people won't accept that I look so much better in jeans and a (generally white) t-shirt.

Which guy would you rather associate with? This ugly loser...



Or this confident young stud?



  

Some people insist that a suit is more respectable and that anyone wearing one should be taken more seriously. Whether they acknowledge it or not, that's how they feel. I think it's disgusting and they should change immediately.

If you want to join the bloghop, sign up below. An email is sent out with the question for each month and it's also posted on the QotM page found at the top of this blog. The next one comes on Monday January 4. Have fun!




41 comments:

  1. I can't get on board this one as I personally love wearing a suit. Perhaps it's because I'm a massive ogre (tall, not wide) and any sort of drapery I can use to slightly mask my horrific, elongated, exaggerated features to help me blend into polite society are welcomed. Besides--and this is more an argument in your favor--wearing a tie is like walking sexual harassment, a tie is a giant arrow pointing right at your wiener. Like, "hey, potential employer, my eyes are down here."

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    1. I heartily support your reason for loving suits and your explanation of ties.

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  2. I don't mind the suits, especially if I find one that fits well. But not everyone feels that way and you do look more relaxed without the shirt and tie.
    Now, if I had to wear one to work or something, I'd probably not like suits either.

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    1. That was very measured and balanced, well done ;)

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  3. Funny comment from "Pickle" about the arrow. If you're not feeling comfortable, you're not yourself. Maybe you could come up with a compromise. A golf or "polo" type shirt with casual pants also looks nice. I think my guys look good in suits, but just for special occasions.

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    1. What are you thinking in terms of casual pants? I could probably get behind that.

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  4. I don't mind it, if I only have to do it every once in a while, but every damn day for work, hated it!

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  5. You do look much better (happier) in the casual attire, but I don't think you are going to be able to change this convention. We're kind of stuck with it for whatever reason.

    I despise dressing up too. "Dress" should be a four-letter word. Maybe I'll just start calling those instruments of torture a dres instead!

    When I was a zookeeper, I got to wear shit-stained shorts and t-shirts. It was so awesome, especially when a group of us would go out to lunch together. Good times.

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    1. Well some workplaces are coming around. IT companies like Google and Apple know how to let employees be themselves and be happy.

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  6. I'm with you on this. I've owned few suits in my life and those were purchased for special occasions and rarely worn after that. I avoid ties as much as possible because they suffocate me.

    However, I will confess that when I managed a business and someone came to a job interview with a suit and tie I was more impressed by them. I was always amazed at the number of sloppy looking people who would apply for a job or those who came in wearing an old tee-shirt with something weird printed on it. I rarely hired people from this latter group unless they really impressed me in some other way and I don't recall that happening.

    Arlee Bird
    Tossing It Out

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    1. Well I like that it wasn't an instant fail, you still gave them a chance to impress you. I'm all for applicants needing to look good, I just think there are more options :)

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  7. You look great in all of them. Ties for men are the same kind of discomfort as women wearing heels. There are those studies that say people perform better when dressed up but I like the casual myself.

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    1. Yeah it's ingrained. People just get the impression that someone is a better person when wearing a suit. It's the same as assuming someone's the boss because they're male.

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  8. I'd take it a step further. Just a button down to an interview is unacceptable. As a woman, I even wear a blazer. People will perceive you as you appear. I'm on team suit!

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  9. Michael, I don;t often wear a suit. I did today for a special occassion. But yeah, suits collect dust in my closet.

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    1. I don't even own one. I manage to get by with one shirt, one backup shirt and a vest.

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  10. You're obviously happier outside a shirt and tie. But your casual clothes don't look like work clothes. Imagine a shirt and tie being what you wear with your pals on a night on the town and a t-shirt with leather jacket being business apparel. Would you be in the same bind?

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    1. What I wear (as long as it's not nuts) shouldn't affect my ability to do the job or entertain my friends.

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  11. When I used to work in the banking industry, men had to wear suits and ties. On those really hot days, I used to feel so sorry for you guys! One Halloween, we decided to dress as opposites. Men as women and women as men. I put on my husbands suit jack and a shirt and tie. I was so uncomfortable for the entire day and it certainly made me appreciate what you guys have to endure.

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    1. Hahaha finally we have one thing to complain about.

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  12. One of my favorite new conventions is that I don't have to wear a dress to church. I don't think God needs to be impressed by what you wear and I usually end up helping out in an area that ruins my church clothes, anyhow.

    That is the female version of the "suit": having to wear a dress.

    As for the many faces of Michael, I like casual, coffee cup Mike best. ;-)

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    1. Hahaha I do think that guy's pretty cute ;)

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  13. Agree with Cherdo's answer. I'm quite behind in my blog-reading. Are you still looking for media-type employment? You'd think that would be an industry where casual, or dressy-casual, would be appreciated.

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    1. Yes I am and you're sort of right. There's a lot of work where suits are required :P

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  14. Since becoming disabled, I wear a polo shirt, jeans, and shoes with velcro closures all the time, even to church. I rarely go anywhere that requires I wear a suit. I used to like wearing a suit and tie, but now I just can't see it.

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    1. Whatever makes you comfortable :) I've got nothing against other people who wear them, I just don't want those people to expect me to wear one.

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  15. I feel ya. You just look more relaxed in the everyday clothes. I'm the same with having to dress up for work. Dresses, button up shirts, slacks - yuck. So uncomfortable. And I'm already super uncomfortable at interviews, way to make it worse by forcing me into dumb clothes -.-

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    1. It just sucks :P Why are we all so superficial??

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  16. In all honesty, truely successful people wear whatever they want, whether it be sweat pants or a suit. People who insist on suits are desperately trying to mimic what they believe is success. How others percieve you in what you are wearing is totally based on their preconcieved prejudices.

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    1. I love that summary. Steve Jobs wore whatever he wanted, because he's a genius.

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  17. I was totally thinking this was next week. I already wrote it, so it's up now.

    I'd rather hire a confident person; then a guy in a suit.

    http://theapels.blogspot.com/2015/12/whats-one-thing-that-society-insists.html

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    1. When I'm in my normal clothes, I'm EXTREMELY confident.

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  18. Getting dressed up once in a while isn't too bad, but I think that more work places should allow people to dress more comfortably as long as you still look presentable, which you do in your casual pics :) Or at least have Casual Fridays.

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    1. Haha I feel like casual Fridays are just a weak attempt by HR to show that they're "down with the people" :P

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  19. I agree on the suits. The worst part is the tie. I never wear it.

    Cold As Heaven

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  20. I agree on the suits. The worst part is the tie. I never wear it.

    Cold As Heaven

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  21. I once had a job where I had to wear slacks, a button up shirt (that was tucked in), and those old guy loafers. No tennis shoes allowed. It wasn't a suit, sure, but it was still miserable. Needless to say, I'm with you. Give me relaxed comfort over 'upscale' appearance any day.

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    1. I was once doing a job demonstrating phones and tablets and phones at an electrical goods store. The manager of the store complained to my boss because my polo shirt was untucked. I wasn't even aware that polo shirts were meant to be tucked :P

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